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Death
- Jen Meller
- Mar 1
- 2 min read
Updated: Sep 11
Death is one of the most human experiences we face—and one of the hardest to talk about.
When we hear the word “death,” we often think of losing someone we love: a parent, a child, a spouse, a friend. And yes, that grief can feel all-consuming.
But death can show up in other ways too.
It might be the loss of a relationship, a dream, or a future we hoped for.It might be a terminal diagnosis, or the quiet knowing that our own time is nearing.It might be watching someone else come close to death—whether peacefully or not.
Death is broad. It’s deeply personal. And often, it’s layered with unspoken feelings—like shame, guilt, or regret. Things we wish we’d done differently. Words left unsaid.
I’ve walked alongside many people facing death—in both life and clinical settings—and I’ve seen what it means to die well. I’ve also seen what it looks like to fight every inch of the journey. My own path with death began long before my therapy work, and it’s continued through graduate research and my role as a death doula.
Because death has shaped me, I hold space for it differently.
I know how grief shows up differently for every person. I know how easy it is to feel like you’re “not doing it right,” or like your feelings are too much or not enough. There is no one way to process a death. But you don’t have to go through it alone.
When we work together...
We slow down. We welcome grief. We talk about what you’re holding—without trying to rush past it or fix it.
Some of the tools I draw from in this work include:
Healing Shame — many people carry regret, anger, or self-judgment in the wake of loss. This work helps gently unravel those threads.
Internal Family Systems (IFS) — this approach helps you connect with the parts of you that may be feeling confused, angry, abandoned, or stuck in grief.
Hakomi — a body-centered, mindfulness-based approach that gently supports healing from the inside out.
Whether you’re grieving someone, something, or preparing for your own death, it would be an honor to hold space for your story. Book a consultation today.
