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Sexuality
- Jen Meller
- Mar 1
- 2 min read
Updated: Sep 10
In a world full of messages about how we should look, what desire should feel like, and who we’re supposed to be attracted to, most of us carry some kind of wound around our sexuality. These cultural narratives shape us—often without our consent. And when personal experiences like sexual abuse, assault, or incest are layered on top, the damage can go even deeper.
It’s no surprise that many of us struggle to feel truly safe, at ease, or at home in our own bodies. We might feel shame or confusion around our desires—or wonder if we’re even allowed to have any. We might shut down emotionally or physically. We might feel both hungry for intimacy and terrified of it. These are all deeply human responses.
When I work with clients in the areas of sexuality and sexual trauma, we take things slowly and gently. We explore questions like:
Who am I underneath all of these messages and experiences?
How would I inhabit my body if I felt safe and free?
What does it mean to express and receive affection, sensuality, and sexuality on my terms?
What inhibits my desires and attractions—are those limits true to me, or are they learned?
What would healthy intimacy look like for me?
How can I break old patterns in relationships and create new ones that feel nourishing and real?
What needs healing—physically, emotionally, relationally—for me to feel whole again?
Sexual trauma is part of my own story. It’s something I’ve worked through personally and continue to tend to. I often say we move from healing to healing. There’s no final destination, just deeper layers of wholeness, freedom, and connection.
You’ve probably seen on other pages of my site that I don’t believe in a one-size-fits-all approach. That’s especially true in the area of sexuality. There’s no universal method, no single path that works for everyone. I won’t press you into the practices or approaches that have worked for me or others. Instead, I’ll help you get curious about what’s right for you.
Our work together will focus on your experience, your body, your timing, and your inner knowing. I’ll support you in listening to yourself, honoring your boundaries, and rebuilding a sense of trust—with yourself and others.
Often, this work overlaps with trauma healing and shame resilience. If those topics feel relevant to you, you might also want to visit the Trauma or Shame pages for more on how I work in those areas.
If you're ready to begin, you can schedule a consult here. We’ll talk about where you’re at, what you’re longing for, and whether it feels like a good fit to work together.
