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Grief & Loss
- Jen Meller
- Mar 1
- 2 min read
Updated: Sep 10
Grief is a deeply personal, often isolating experience. It deserves to be honored—not rushed, dismissed, or explained away.
When I work with clients navigating grief and loss, we often discover layers of emotion underneath the sorrow. One common thread is shame—shame for what was said or left unsaid, for how one did or didn’t show up, for how long the grief has lingered. I help clients gently separate out the grief from the shame so each can be acknowledged and tended to with care.
There isn’t a single human emotion that isn’t softened, clarified, or transformed in the presence of a loving, attentive other. As humans, we are wired for connection. We need each other to survive—and we especially need each other to heal. In fact, research from Dr. Julianne Holt-Lunstad at Brigham Young University shows that loneliness is as detrimental to our health as many chronic diseases.
Grief touches every life, but not every person has access to supportive relationships during seasons of loss. That absence—of community, witness, understanding—can compound the pain. I offer a relational space where your grief is welcome, your shame is not judged, and your nervous system is supported with gentleness and care.
Some of the tools I bring into this work include:
IFS (Internal Family Systems) – to help explore the many parts of you responding to the loss
Shame healing techniques – to untangle any hidden self-blame
Nervous system education and regulation tools – to help your body remember that it’s safe to feel, even when grief comes in waves
You don’t have to go through this alone. Book a call with me and I’ll be with you, alongside the sorrow, as you learn to carry it with tenderness.
Resources
Podcasts on Grief:
On IFS and Grief:
Healing Shame:
From My Blog:
