Grief Support

Loss is painful. The accompanying grief can be lonely and hard.

 

Sources of loss and grief can be so varied--be it the loss of a dream, a divorce, a death, unmet expectations, even the loss of purpose or vision for life. 

 

Contrary to what many people have led us to believe, loss and grief aren't things we simply “move on” from or “get over.”

 

When one is in the midst of grief, words of encouragement, and the course many take to try and help often come up short.  Those around us mean well, but often their lack of understanding and patience can deepen the isolation we feel.

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There is no timetable with grief. There is no rational, sequential path through it.

Whatever the source of your grief, coming here today to find support took courage.

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Looking for support during periods of grief can be particularly challenging because so often it can feel as though one's courage has been utterly devoured by the exhaustion that so closely attends grief.

 

I know. I have not experienced your grief. I have only experienced my own. But I have learned much about grief and grief support in the process.

 

Whether you are new to grief, have been awash in heavy waves of grief for some time, or find yourself wanting to continue processing grief even after it has softened in your own life, I am here to support you on your journey.

True comfort in grief is in acknowledging the pain, not in trying to make it go away.
Companionship, not correction, is the way forward.

 

– Megan Devine

In my work with grief, I often step into the role of a death doula, a space holder or gentle guide when people are transitioning through loss.

Our society seems to readily embrace the need for birth doulas, even if it's just another mother figure in the room when a woman gives birth. We recognize the act of bringing life into the world is one of such magnitude that we need a guide or container, to be outside of the overwhelm, outside of the primal emotions that can darken the view. Someone who can shine the light for us when we can't see the path forward or bring us back to the here and now when we go whirling off in a panic.

 

I continually find myself stepping into roles for other people where I am helping to tie both the ending and the possibility of new life together, be it a physical death, a move, career change, decision to

leave or enter further into a relationship, journey of spiritual transformation, or something else. I step into the role of a guide when life is transforming in a way that involves both endings and new beginnings. 

 

It is a deeply humbling experience to hold space for someone as they struggle to find their way through these transitions, as it is often in the struggle that they find new or renewed meaning and purpose for their life. For me there is no greater expression of service than being a trusted container for another in that process.

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You will not “get over” loss; you will learn to live with it.
You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around what you have experienced.
You will be whole again, but you will never be the same.
Nor should you be the same. Nor would you want to.

 

– David Kessler